needtogetawaynow asked: How do you get over a girl?
What a great question. Getting over anyone is tough and it takes time so first, be gentle with yourself and your process. Don’t rush it and know that you are completely normal for having feelings and needing to take the time to come to terms with a love that didn’t work out.
1) Take some time without contact. If at all possible, don’t see, talk to, text, hang out with the girl. Every time you see or interact with her it will keep the pain of the relationship fresh. Give yourself the space you need. Maybe take time off of tumblr or facebook if that’s a way she stays fresh in your mind.
2) Get busy with self-care. Start journaling, start painting, start jogging start a club… start something that excites and inspires you and makes you feel good about yourself.
3) Spend time with supportive friends. Spend time with people who support you and build you up.
4) Cultivate hope: Make a “dream partner” list. Write down everything you’d like your dream partner to be like. Funny? Kind? Emotionally available? Write it all down. And then start thinking about how you can become that person yourself. We attract who we are. Chances are, there are ways that the girl you are getting over doesn’t fit your list. Allow yourself to dream about how the future partner will be a better fit.
5) Be patient and gentle with yourself. This bears repeating. Allow yourself to cry, feel nothing, feel everything… observe your emotions as they fluxuate and dont judge them.
Best of luck to you.
Cat
