Anonymous asked: So I am an in the closet lesbian, a freshman in high school. I've had a crush on a girl whose very open with every one about her sexuality, (she is gay) the whole year. very recently I told her about my own sexuality, and we have been talking and hanging out lately, and for a while I thought she was flirting, but I think she just likes me as a friend. I was just wondering if there was any ways to make her be more interested in me without being blatantly flirtatious because I don't want many people to know about my sexuality. Thank you! :)
Hi!
First of all, I am very happy to hear that you have someone to talk to about your sexuality, and that you can get support. I imagine it’s also a bit scary to try to figure this relationship out with her, because she must be an important friend since you can be out to her. I respect your desire not to be out right now, but it can make dating more complicated unfortunately. It seems like you’re going to have to be direct with her if you want her to know how you feel. What if you asked her out on a date? Or if this seems too scary, you could write her a note and tell her you have a crush on her, but that you want to continue to be her friend even if she doesn’t return the feelings. I’m sorry to say I don’t think there’s an easy answer. If you don’t want others to know how you feel, you’ll have to let her know in a direct, private way. It sounds like she’s cool and you don’t have anything to lose, so I say be brave and see what happens!
Good luck!
Maya
