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hello. I am bi-sexual and currently been dating a guy for a year. I have always been open about my sexuality and i have been with women also,( however i have not been in a commited relationship)I now feel like something is missing and when i am drinking i have kissed other girls , however i have been honest about this. I feel confused because i do love my partner but sexually i don’t feel completly satisfied anymore. Help. !


Hello! First of all, I want to commend you for being honest with your partner about what’s been going on with you, and what you’ve been doing. I’m sure it’s difficult for both of you to feel like something is changing in your relationship, and the only way you will work through this, regardless of what ends up happening, is to be open about your feelings. That being said, it sounds like you need to do some reflecting on where this urge to kiss girls is coming from.  Of course it is possible to love your partner and be attracted to other people. But it sounds like you’re only really interested sexually in girls right now. It is normal that after a year, your sexual dynamic is going to change with your boyfriend, because it is no longer a new relationship. This is not a bad thing, it’s just an area that needs ongoing work as the relationship matures. This would happen whether you’re with a guy or a girl. However, there may be more going on with you, and you’re wanting and needing to explore your attraction to girls right now. This relationship may not fit you any more, even if you really love your partner. Take some time to explore your feelings, either talking with friends, journaling, or simply reflecting alone. Try to be brave enough to get in touch with what your gut tells you, even if it is scary or surprising. I wish you all the best with your process. -Maya


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