May 2013
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I got this question in my ask box and thought I’d put it out to everyone. I think that there are many different answers to this question depending on who you are and how you experience the Queer community. I’d love to have a variety of responses for this QgQ reader from a variety of Queers.
“ok so im a lesbian. but i feel like im limiting myself in a way. genderqueer people and...
Anonymous asked: Hi, I would like to know how you know you are lesbian? I think I am like 99.9% sure I am but I have never been with a girl but i am attracted to them. Do you think I need to be with a girl before I just go and tell people Im lesbian?
Anonymous asked: Can I identify myself to be queer without having had any sexual experience but based on my desires,my feelings..?
Anonymous asked: I need some advice. I'm a queer cisgendered female and I've been completely in love with a girl for a couple of years and never told her. Freshman year she came out as a lesbian. Neither of us has dated anyone throughout high school. Now it's the end of Junior year and I built up the courage to tell her how I feel and then last night she came out as trans. I don't care and...
Anonymous asked: I'm really shy and have no idea how to meet other girls. I've tried the internet but it's sort of creepy and I always get paired up with complete lunatics, I've also tried the bar/club scene which is terrifying because everyone is so unfriendly and uninterested in chit chat. Also I'm from the south and it's REALLY hard to get into the gay community unless you already...
I’m going to throw this question out to everyone…
Anonymous asked you:
Is there a Q&A blog like yours, but for gay/bi males?
April 2013
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February 2013
1 post
January 2013
6 posts
Anonymous asked: This isn't really a question, but I just wanted to say that last night I came out to my best friend that I'm bi, and she took it really well! This blog really helped me with coming out, and everything, so I just wanted to say thanks :)
Anonymous asked: Hii Cat, Well, I've been crushing on this girl for a while but I don't know if she's bi or straight. Sometimes she would have moments where I think she's bi but she had tons of boyfriends in the past. What should I do?
Anonymous asked: Hi if I was to ask you a question on here how long would it take you to reply to me?
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WatchWhen we lose something, we often focus on the loss. We might try to replace that thing with an exact duplicate…we might think about finding an adequate substitute. Here, Aimee Mullins encourages us to think about how an empty space can be filled with something more beautiful than was possible before.
Have you ever lost something or someone and then discovered that newer/better things were...
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12 Types and Examples of Distorted Thinking →
We all can have “distorted thinking” sometimes. Below is a list of some different ways our thoughts can veer away from reality…
As you read through this list, and identify some ways your thinking may be “distorted” from time to time, think about ways you can bring yourself back. Does it help to check in with a friend about your thoughts? If you constantly think about...
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December 2012
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Anonymous asked you:
What does ‘queer’ actually mean? I was told it meant eccentric, and now I’m being told it might mean gay but maybe it’s something else and I just don’t know. So yeah, what does Queer mean?
In general, people use this term to mean “not straight,” not heterosexual, not heteronormative. The word used to mean “strange,” and...
Anonymous asked: I have a random question-kisses on the first date? Do or don't? Sometimes I feel its too forward/soon other times I think they'll think the date didnt go well if I don't. Also, kiss on the cheek? Is that too platonic and dorky?
Anonymous asked: Hey Cat, I have a bit of a dilemma. Recently I met this girl I had been crushing on for a bit. We hung out one night&got along. I couldn't really read if she was into me or not though. Anyways, the next day, I posted via twitter that I got a new phone&jokingly wrote, "ask me for my number." She then favourited that post. This made me think maybe she wanted my number. So I...
Anonymous asked: Im falling for this girl who is dating someone else long distance, Her smile lights up the entire room, shrn i first saw it is when i started falling for her. Should i just leave the situation alone?
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“If roads were collapsing all across the United States, killing dozens of drivers, we would surely see that as a moment to talk about what we could do to keep roads from collapsing. If terrorists were detonating bombs in port after port, you can be sure Congress would be working to upgrade the nation’s security measures. If a plague was ripping through communities, public-health officials would be...
November 2012
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Friday night in New York...
21 Orchard Street New York, NY 10002 212-741-9955
LIA HALLORAN
Metamorphose
November 17, 2012 - January 6, 2013
Opening Reception: Friday, November 16, 6 - 8pm
Celestite, 2012, ink on drafting film, 84 x 60”
DCKT Contemporary is pleased to present LIA HALLORAN’s fourth New York solo exhibition,Metamorphose, in our new location at 21 Orchard Street. Large-scale works feature...
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I'm half in the closet... wait.... Is that...
This question was answered by
Maya Johansson, MFT, a frequent contributer to QgQ.
gabbyglamm asked you: Is it normal to be half in the closet and half out of the closet? I acknowledge my sexuality and most people in my family know but I’m still in the process of trying to love myself and I’m not fully out. Hello! Yes, this is totally normal. Coming out is a process, and it’s...
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I'm a quiet butch and I'm afraid of...
This question was answered by frequent QgQ contributer,
Maya Johansson, MFT
Anonymous asked you: I am a butch lesbian who’s been single a long time because of baggage from a previous relationship, 3 years ago. The thing is I’m quiet, reserved, introverted, a little socially awkward and REALLY sensitive. I don’t take rejection well. I find this hinders my ability to get to...
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I don't want to act like a stalker...
This question was answered by
Maya Johansson, MFT, a frequent contributer to QgQ.
Anonymous asked you: So, I’m a freshman in college. During my break today, there was this girl who, just looking at her gave me butterflies. I did the normal kind-of-stalker thing, stealing quick glances here and there. I couldn’t help but notice rainbow earrings and her conversation about our LGBTQ...
Hi lovelies!
Don’t forget that QgQ is on the twitter @queergirlQ
As well as the Instagram @queergirlquestions
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mirseesmusings asked: Hi Cat, this isn't a question, but I just wanted to thank you for your blog. I recently came out as a lesbian, but I was raised catholic, so even though I know logically that there is nothing wrong with being gay, a part of my brain has been brainwashed against it. I struggle with it a LOT. Everyday I go on tumblr and read posts to remind myself Im not an abomination. People like you make...
October 2012
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Anonymous asked: Hi there Cat! I have a slight problem: I'm a high school senior with a huge crush on my English teacher, who just so happens to be helping me write my college essays. Generally, when crushes are inappropriate, I'd just stop spending time with the person but that's not really an option here. Any advice on how to get over this? Btw, she's married with three kids so it's not...
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Crush on a stranger...
Anonymous asked you:
Hi Cat! After years in a hetero relationship, I have my first real crush a woman (past thinking she’s very pretty). We have mutual friends and from what I can tell, we would get along. She is something else, and I feel drawn to her in a way I have never felt about a stranger. But, I found out she recently got into a relationship. I feel almost heartbroken and, more so,...
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Sure thing! Good luck with your paper…
to-causing-gay-commotion submitted toqueergirlquestions
Survey about sexual orientation
Hi there! I love your blog! I was wondering if you’d be able to help me out with something… I’m currently writing a paper for a sociology class, and need people to answer my survey. My topic is Nature vs. Nurture as it pertains to homosexuality. If you could put...
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This question was answered by a guest QgQ contributer Pilar Dellano, who is an excellent therapist in San Francisco.
A little about Pilar:
Pilar is an often confounded relationship haver,
a rarely reserved relationship blogger,
and an always excited relationship therapist.
Pilar has her own blog, as well, which you can read here: lonelyforever.wordpress.com
Anonymous asked you:
I was...
This question was answered by a guest QgQ contributer Pilar Dellano, who is an excellent therapist in San Francisco.
A little about Pilar:
Pilar is an often confounded relationship haver,
a rarely reserved relationship blogger,
and an always excited relationship therapist.
Pilar has her own blog, as well, which you can read here: lonelyforever.wordpress.com
Anonymous asked you: How can i...
