I got this question in my ask box and thought I’d put it out to everyone. I think that there are many different answers to this question depending on who you are and how you experience the Queer community. I’d love to have a variety of responses for this QgQ reader from a variety of Queers.
“ok so im a lesbian. but i feel like im limiting myself in a way. genderqueer people and non binary, like its all very interesting but sometimes i feel like the queer culture makes me feel guilty for not expanding my horizons. i know this sounds horrible, but i feel like people who are genderqueer or trans feel like they’re better than lesbians/gays. idk maybe im just reading into it, but we all identify as lgbtq, shouldn’t we just get along?
If you identify as a lesbian to yourself, then that’s enough. The most important person to be out to is yourself, anyway.
And know this…some people identify under one term for years, and then switch it up to something else, and then maybe switch it again to something else! All of that is ok. Be true to yourself first and foremost and the rest will fall into place. Some people may understand and be supportive and others may feel confused. It’s ok if people don’t understand or feel confused—that goes for you, too. Your feelings and process in understanding yourself is the most important. Do your best to spend time with the folks who allow you to feel safe and supportive no matter how you identify.
Best of luck!